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My mother and father had 13 yr gap. He was 32 and she was 19 when they met. They were married over 45+ yrs. 

 

Of course they can work and they can not work. 

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My mother and father had 13 yr gap. He was 32 and she was 19 when they met. They were married over 45+ yrs. 

 

Of course they can work and they can not work. 

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Me personally i wouldn't even try seeing someone more than 10 yrs younger.....Unless they're very mature for their age, we have a lot in common but just as many differences in the right places to balance each other out. 

 

The 20's something yr olds that i've d8'ed i haven't found that...at all. lol

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Me personally i wouldn't even try seeing someone more than 10 yrs younger.....Unless they're very mature for their age, we have a lot in common but just as many differences in the right places to balance each other out. 

 

The 20's something yr olds that i've d8'ed i haven't found that...at all. lol

I'm 15 years older than the other person, which I think is the biggest issue between us. It's getting harder and harder to stop what seems to be flowing naturally though. Maturity seems about the same and we have a huge amount in common, to a WTF degree. 

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I'm 15 years older than the other person, which I think is the biggest issue between us. It's getting harder and harder to stop what seems to be flowing naturally though. Maturity seems about the same and we have a huge amount in common, to a WTF degree. 

I thought you were married m8? 

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I'm 11 years older than Mrs sparks and we've been happily married for almost 10 years. It's never an issue.

 

Some friends of ours have 19 years between them. It seems to be a bit more of a challenge - they've just had a kid and he's really struggling...maybe that's more an issue of having your first kids when you're nearly 50 though, rather than the age gap per se.

 

I guess an age gap in itself shouldn't be an issue, but the consequences of one (such as differing priorities, wanting different things from life etc) are what needs exploring.

 

Good luck chons!

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I thought you were married m8? 

It's complicated and I have certain permissions. I'm not doing anything outside of our agreements. 

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It's complicated and I have certain permissions. I'm not doing anything outside of our agreements. 

Gotcha. 

 

That would probably be my #1 fantasy relationship. To be in a love triangle with two women....but i'd have to be ok with them being open to occasionally wanting other women ( <YASSS!!! ) or other men ( <Cringe ) in the relationship which i'm not ok with because i'm an insecure sexist pig that wants them all for myself. lol

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When I was in my early 20s, I dated older women. In their 30s and early 40s. Best sex, and they wanted it all the time. Now I date women my age.

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My wife and me are 7 years apart.

Anything can work if you make it work. Anything can fail if you let it fail.

Relationships always need two people working towards a common goal. If one person starts dropping that ball, any excuse or reason around can split you up. These days relationships are thrown away far to easy because people will jump to the next one and the next one. If 15 years works for you, then who cares what everyone else is doing or done.

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It really depends how old you both are. A 10 year difference if you are 30 and 40 might be a bit much whereas 50 and 60 might be more manageable.

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I've dated a few women older than me not many much younger I can think about.

 

Agree with a few posts here that's it's really just depends.

 

The only one I'm not really a fan of and this just from couples I'd seen at that age was when the chick is like 16 or 17 and the dude is like 25+. I'm not gonna lie when I was 16/17 and you seen that, that dude was usually classed as the weird older dude by everyone at the party lol.

 

Once you are both in your 20s I'm pretty neutral. I know for a fact at 20 I would have been no use in relationship with a mature woman but people grow up at different rates most I bet usually faster than me lol.

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I'm 11 years older than Mrs sparks and we've been happily married for almost 10 years. It's never an issue.

 

Some friends of ours have 19 years between them. It seems to be a bit more of a challenge - they've just had a kid and he's really struggling...maybe that's more an issue of having your first kids when you're nearly 50 though, rather than the age gap per se.

 

I guess an age gap in itself shouldn't be an issue, but the consequences of one (such as differing priorities, wanting different things from life etc) are what needs exploring.

 

Good luck chons!

Thanks, B. 

 

Right now it seems fine, but then I think about being 60 and she'll be 45, which is how old I am now. That's when it get's weird and I start to wonder. 

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Gotcha. 

 

That would probably be my #1 fantasy relationship. To be in a love triangle with two women....but i'd have to be ok with them being open to occasionally wanting other women ( <YASSS!!! ) or other men ( <Cringe ) in the relationship which i'm not ok with because i'm an insecure sexist pig that wants them all for myself. lol

Well, without getting into too much TMI territory... none of that will be going on. If this goes to the next level, I can't be married to someone else. 

 

I've never had a "real", relationship because of the piss poor way in which I dealt with my issues. So, this is pretty new for me in a lot of ways. We've been getting to know each other for the past year, without crossing any lines physically. We're in pretty ****ing deep though. Meh. 

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This

 

my wife and I are 9.5 years apart

My wife is 8 years older than me, it feels like 40. 

 

We are straight up just friends though, it's more like the odd couple (does anybody know that show?), than anything else. 

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Thanks, B.

 

Right now it seems fine, but then I think about being 60 and she'll be 45, which is how old I am now. That's when it get's weird and I start to wonder.

I think being with someone younger than you keeps you young. Most of my friends are quite a bit younger than me as well...plus I make sure I stay healthy so that the age gap doesn't manifest itself physically.

 

People age differently both physically and in outlook. My mum often moans about a friend of hers who's 65 and just stays in all the time (there's nothing physically wrong with her btw). Meanwhile my 72 yo mum plays table tennis twice a week and hosts people for dinner most weekends.

 

Age is just a number...

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I think being with someone younger than you keeps you young. Most of my friends are quite a bit younger than me as well...plus I make sure I stay healthy so that the age gap doesn't manifest itself physically.

 

People age differently both physically and in outlook. My mum often moans about a friend of hers who's 65 and just stays in all the time (there's nothing physically wrong with her btw). Meanwhile my 72 yo mum plays table tennis twice a week and hosts people for dinner most weekends.

 

Age is just a number...

I agree with all of your opinions here, I just feel a bit selfish. Like... of course I can say age is just a number, when I'm the older one. 

 

I'm tip-top, with no aches and pains and plan to go kicking and screaming before I succumb to being "old". 

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I agree with all of your opinions here, I just feel a bit selfish. Like... of course I can say age is just a number, when I'm the older one.

 

I'm tip-top, with no aches and pains and plan to go kicking and screaming before I succumb to being "old".

I guess it's only selfish if you're not open about it. I agonised about the age thing before I asked Mrs sparks out and it turned out she'd thought about it for about 5 minutes and decided it was no biggie. You might find it's less of an issue than you think for the other person.

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I guess it's only selfish if you're not open about it. I agonised about the age thing before I asked Mrs sparks out and it turned out she'd thought about it for about 5 minutes and decided it was no biggie. You might find it's less of an issue than you think for the other person.

It's an issue for both of us and was brought up last night. Both of us also have our guard up a bit. The big fear is that the friendship goes to ****. 

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Well, without getting into too much TMI territory... none of that will be going on. If this goes to the next level, I can't be married to someone else. 

 

I've never had a "real", relationship because of the piss poor way in which I dealt with my issues. So, this is pretty new for me in a lot of ways. We've been getting to know each other for the past year, without crossing any lines physically. We're in pretty **** deep though. Meh. 

Now i'm confused but i don't wanna pry. 

 

If you can't be married to someone else then stay married. If your marriage isn't enough then why stay married? 

 

First woman i fell in love with i had VERY strong feelings for someone else whom i was more physically attracted to and felt like i possibly connected more with them intellectually and emotionally than the person i was with. I knew that other person had some strong feelings for me that she'd be willing to entertain had i been single and i was torn and wanted both at the same time but i knew neither one would have been open to that so i never brought it up because that would have been selfish on my part already knowing how they felt about open relationships. 

 

IDK. Like you said it's complicated. You don't always get to pick who you fall in and out of love with and sometimes there are strong  feels for more than one. lol

 

Me thinks at some point you gonna have to choose who is just friend and who is lover and friend and go for whomever is more of a match. Best of luck. 

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Thanks, B. 

 

Right now it seems fine, but then I think about being 60 and she'll be 45, which is how old I am now. That's when it get's weird and I start to wonder. 

As long as she is willing to change your diapers when she is 65 to 70, you're good.

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I agree with all of your opinions here, I just feel a bit selfish. Like... of course I can say age is just a number, when I'm the older one. 

 

I'm tip-top, with no aches and pains and plan to go kicking and screaming before I succumb to being "old". 

If it isn't a problem, why make it a problem or introduce negative thoughts.  Roll with what works, until it doesn't work.  Dwelling about things that may become issues, creates issues.

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I'm still head over heels in love with my ex girlfriend who is 15 years younger.. she still loves me too..just isn't the right time for us..

 

I would like to think one day...

 

And I defiantly would like to think that those situations work out

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my GF is 20 and seeing her just over a month so early days but fooking amazing.

 

she is going to be starting moving in every other week, depending weather she gets a job here or brighton that is

 

happy days

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I'm still head over heels in love with my ex girlfriend who is 15 years younger.. she still loves me too..just isn't the right time for us..

 

I would like to think one day...

 

And I defiantly would like to think that those situations work out

You are THE CHAD. Of course it will 'work out', it's what you do homie!

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Now i'm confused but i don't wanna pry. 

 

If you can't be married to someone else then stay married. If your marriage isn't enough then why stay married? 

 

First woman i fell in love with i had VERY strong feelings for someone else whom i was more physically attracted to and felt like i possibly connected more with them intellectually and emotionally than the person i was with. I knew that other person had some strong feelings for me that she'd be willing to entertain had i been single and i was torn and wanted both at the same time but i knew neither one would have been open to that so i never brought it up because that would have been selfish on my part already knowing how they felt about open relationships. 

 

IDK. Like you said it's complicated. You don't always get to pick who you fall in and out of love with and sometimes there are strong  feels for more than one. lol

 

Me thinks at some point you gonna have to choose who is just friend and who is lover and friend and go for whomever is more of a match. Best of luck. 

Neither one of us (wife), really believes in marriage. We got married for immigration purposes. 

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If it isn't a problem, why make it a problem or introduce negative thoughts.  Roll with what works, until it doesn't work.  Dwelling about things that may become issues, creates issues.

That's very Zen. I'm bringing this up, the next time the age issue comes up. 

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Interesting topic. Yes, it works. Sometimes it can even work better than the 'normal' age frame imo.

 

However, I would date an older woman but I would be very skeptical dating a younger lady.

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Interesting topic. Yes, it works. Sometimes it can even work better than the 'normal' age frame imo.

 

However, I would date an older woman but I would be very skeptical dating a younger lady.

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Interesting topic. Yes, it works. Sometimes it can even work better than the 'normal' age frame imo.

 

However, I would date an older woman but I would be very skeptical dating a younger lady.

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Did you guys know that the daughter was actually older than the mother on golden girls in real life? Edited by BART-O-LINI
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Did you guys know that the daughter was actually older than the mother on golden girls in real life?

No - and you should be embarrassed that you know that.  Skill and Power probably knows too.

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My ol lady is 24 and I'm 36, been together 5 years and so far so good.

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19 isn't pedo bear worthy.

 

Don't let me ever see you disrespecting pedo bear like this again. He is an internet legend and doesn't have time for your foolishness.

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19 isn't pedo bear worthy.

 

Don't let me ever see you disrespecting pedo bear like this again. He is an internet legend and doesn't have time for your foolishness.

Don't worry, my dad & mom have a bigger age gap.

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Interesting topic. Yes, it works. Sometimes it can even work better than the 'normal' age frame imo.

 

However, I would date an older woman but I would be very skeptical dating a younger lady.

This is why my guard is up. This is the only part where age comes into play in my mind, where I feel like I'm really sure of what I want because of those extra fifteen years.

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