BruteDion Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Was watching a movie and one of the main characters wife left him cuz she wanted him to be more then a cop(his childhood dream) So I ask...if your mate wanted you to do something else other then your dream job or divorce would you pick your career or her? To me this is another example of people getting married and not truly being in love...I mean how could you leave or let alone threaten to leave just cuz thier career is not to your standards? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabri1985 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 it would depend on a lot of factors, did i have kids with her, how much money is my job pulling in and could we survive with out it, how in love with her i was and was it a case of my job be dangerous and her not wanting me to leave then not know if i would be coming back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
||LastManStanding|| Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 My dad died in 2005. The day he got the news doctors couldn't help him I wasn't there because I was busy working for a company that doesn't even exist anymore today. As luck would have it, 3 years ago my mother in law got terminally ill and when she died I wasn't around for my wife because I was abroad on some ****** assignment. I guess you can say I learned the hard way that no job or career comes before family.. I'm a father of 2 now and I cut back my hours to 36 a week and I spend a great deal of time enjoying my family. No job in the world is more important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chons Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 My wife wouldn't make me choose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little_Kang Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 what would be my salary and would i be able to marry again ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JBJF Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I'd ditch the career. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sisti Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 My wife wouldn't make me choose. same here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wirerat Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 If you truely where you need to be as a person, the only thing that should take any form of precedence over your family should be your faith. If you can somehow choose anything of this world over any part of your family, then you don't truely love your family and or are just plain selfish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chanman20 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 If you truely where you need to be as a person' date=' the only thing that should take any form of precedence over your family should be your faith. If you can somehow choose anything of this world over any part of your family, then you don't truely love your family and or are just plain selfish.[/quote'] ^ this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BruteDion Posted December 7, 2012 Author Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 My wife wouldn't make me choose. That's not my question I'm sayin let's say she did...let's say you followed your childhood dream and are in the position you have always wanted to be in (doctor,pres,ect) she does not care and tells yoy do do something else or shes leaving you What would you do...your dream or your wife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHarbinger Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 If you truely where you need to be as a person' date=' the only thing that should take any form of precedence over your family should be your faith.[/quote'] Because the fairy tale man you read about in a book comes before your flesh and blood family, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chanman20 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Because the fairy tale man you read about in a book comes before your flesh and blood family' date=' right? [/quote'] just cause you think hes a fairy tale doesn't make it true nor should you talk **** about someones belief Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHarbinger Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 just cause you think hes a fairy tale doesn't make it true nor should you talk **** about someones belief Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wirerat Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 just cause you think hes a fairy tale doesn't make it true nor should you talk **** about someones belief He's your typical kid these days. Arrogant, insulting, and thinks he knows it all. He doesn't bother me. I just let idiots insults roll off my back. This one can't even carry on intelligent conversation for one second without trying to be inflamatory about something. Not hard to peg that one as a childish troll who doesn't even realize his own ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabri1985 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Because the fairy tale man you read about in a book comes before your flesh and blood family' date=' right? [/quote'] Well said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarWest® Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I don't have that problem My wife supports me to the fullest And I do the same for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIRKO_CRO_GOD Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 my career... i dont have a wife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fourthnorseman Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Was watching a movie and one of the main characters wife left him cuz she wanted him to be more then a cop(his childhood dream) So I ask...if your mate wanted you to do something else other then your dream job or divorce would you pick your career or her? To me this is another example of people getting married and not truly being in love...I mean how could you leave or let alone threaten to leave just cuz thier career is not to your standards? You take the job because she shouldn't be making you choose. She ain't right for you if she is making you choose. Now if you were married 5+ years and you wanted to make a carrer change after? And she has a legit reason? You take the wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KINGnoob Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Career. If the wife doesnt support me, ill find one that does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmafan73 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 too many variables....but what wife WOULDNT support what your striving for? a wife that doesnt care enough.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevbo_Jones Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I don't have that problem My wife supports me to the fullest And I do the same for her This^ My success is her success and vice versa. Support from the other person in the equation ultimately leads to happiness in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chons Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 That's not my question I'm sayin let's say she did...let's say you followed your childhood dream and are in the position you have always wanted to be in (doctor' date='pres,ect) she does not care and tells yoy do do something else or shes leaving you What would you do...your dream or your wife[/quote'] The answer I gave you is the best I can do. I never would marry a person who would put that question to me. I've been with a few women that I was completely devoted to at the time and none of them made it to wife status because they would have come between me and my dream job. The person you are conjuring up shouldn't be anybody's wife IMO. Does that answer your question enough? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DL4TRU_STRENGTH Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 As many have already said, two people who are in a loving and respectful relationship wouldnt have this problem. Short of your "dreams" being unhealthy or detrimental to your family, I see no reason why someone should have to choose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sobercuban Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I gave up playing poker and being a poker dealer for a living for some woman and took a 66% initial paycut to begin my current career ... thinking I would be able to provide more of a "typical" life. ... .. The relationship floundered for a few years and now all I have is this crappy career LMAO .. I don't think I'd ever do it for a woman ever again unless I was trading upwards and she would have to be pretty special. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enigma_Machine Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 If the woman is willing to leave that easily and throw it all away then she's not worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chons Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I gave up playing poker and being a poker dealer for a living for some woman and took a 66% initial paycut to begin my current career ... thinking I would be able to provide more of a "typical" life. ... .. The relationship floundered for a few years and now all I have is this crappy career LMAO .. I don't think I'd ever do it for a woman ever again unless I was trading upwards and she would have to be pretty special. I took a 60k a year pay cut to move up here to be with my wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sobercuban Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 I took a 60k a year pay cut to move up here to be with my wife. mine was in that neighborhood lol (srsly) .... there's good money in dealing poker in private games .. I left to work for a friend of mines husband (where I still work, over 5 years now) and he literally made me come in the lowest position in the company as to not show favoritism and started me at a whopping $10/hr lmao ... luckily I had saved somewhat well during me 3 year dealer stint I moved up twice within the first year and have advance a couple of times since but I'm still no where near poker money It might have just been wrong woman ... it was pretty evident after 6 months or so that it was never, ever, going to work out long term but we both kidded ourselves for a few years out of convenience or security or whatever Sucks because now I have no desire to deal poker any more .. for about two years I would deal 1-2 nights of the week for extra $$ but it just hurts my lower back too much if I'm there for more that a few hours Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EdGOAT Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Neither. I'm a pimp. That ***** would work for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brady969 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 Was watching a movie and one of the main characters wife left him cuz she wanted him to be more then a cop(his childhood dream) So I ask...if your mate wanted you to do something else other then your dream job or divorce would you pick your career or her? To me this is another example of people getting married and not truly being in love...I mean how could you leave or let alone threaten to leave just cuz thier career is not to your standards? If you married someone knowing what they do for a living and you knew the possibility you were going to have kids with that person then you have NO RIGHT to ask them to give up their careers. It's selfish and wrong. But if my wife was being a selfish person and threatened to split the family up because of my job, I would quit for my daughters sake not for my wife. My daughter needs a mother and father growing up in the same house. My needs come 2nd. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thesoulpower Posted December 8, 2012 Report Share Posted December 8, 2012 Marrying old women with money is my career. So I don't know how to answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeXxXus Posted December 8, 2012 Report Share Posted December 8, 2012 I will say career PERIOD. If a women can't support what I want to be and only thinks of herself it doesnt matter at that point.... She should understand if im trying to do what I love im trying to support her.... Lets take Baseball for instance... Minor guys have to get 2 jobs to even survive... If she can't support that? **** her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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