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I don't know about everyone else but... my girlfriend doesn't get flirted with or anything infront of me because im there and that scares guys away but she wants to go out with her lady friends everynow and then which is understandable, but still i hate even knowing that a guy will try to hit on her and he'll go home and have a story to tell his buddies that lightened his day. I hate even knowing they got some kind of satisfaction from it. For example the girls went out the other night and some guy was following her around like a puppy supposedly even after hearing she has a boyfriend.

 

This is to all the single guys out there. Hitting on girls is fine but have some respect for other peoples relationships if they are in one. Even before i was with my gf i have NEVER come onto a taken woman. Theres nothing worse than a sneaky little weasel trolling around the bar with a **** eating grin on his face who hits on other peoples women when they arent around just to get his jollies off

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caveman much?

 

let your girl decide if she wants to flirt or be hit on. shes not your property. i'll hit on girls regardless of their status. if they are receptive then obviously the their relationship isn't all that good or serious. if you were really secure about your relationship you'd lighten up. if your girl disrespects your or cheats then obviously you feel differently about each other.

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Well I think you're just overdoing it man.. I mean are you married to this girl or something? I would never try it on a girl who tells me she's engaged with someone but there's a diffrence between having a boyfriend and being engaged. What right do you have upon that girl that any other guy doesnt have? Cuz you were there first you think she belongs to you? That's bull*** and you better get used to it because there's absolutely nothing you can do except maybe post threads on internet forums (which btw is by far the freakiest demonstration of helplessness and attempt to control things you can't, that I've ever seen in my life) to keep other guys from trying to flirt your gf. She's with ya most likely because she loves you but that doesnt mean the other guys can't give it a try. If she decides she loves someone else more and breaks up with you then I guess the relationship wasn't worth that much therefore the only thing you're asking others to respect is yourself and your own comfort and peace of mind and not your "relationship". All you can do is do your best to make sure she never feels that she might be better with someone else that way she will most likely never pay attention to them.

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Meh' date=' I don't really care much. I know she's gonna shut him down and be coming home to me. Relationships are all about trust man. The more possesive you get the better chance you have of screwing things up.[/quote']

 

agreed,if you have 2 worry ,then either you're doing something wrong or she is no good.

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Sorry to say but you sound very insecure about your relationship.

 

I trust the woman I'm with and if she proves me wrong, she's gone.

 

I never cheat on the woman I'm with, if for some reason I feel we should no longer be together, and I would find a better partner with someone else, I inform whoever I'm dating of the matter.

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People used to always hit on my ex when we were at parties. I allowed it. As stated above, if she wanted it, she can kick rocks. If not, than she goes home with me. I would let her talk to dudes, no problem. If they got stupid and belligerent and she doesn't like it than I gotta do something. If not, they can talk all they want because she's either a skeezer or she's a good catch. You'll find out.

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Well I think you're just overdoing it man.. I mean are you married to this girl or something? I would never try it on a girl who tells me she's engaged with someone but there's a diffrence between having a boyfriend and being engaged. What right do you have upon that girl that any other guy doesnt have? Cuz you were there first you think she belongs to you? That's bull*** and you better get used to it because there's absolutely nothing you can do except maybe post threads on internet forums (which btw is by far the freakiest demonstration of helplessness and attempt to control things you can't' date=' that I've ever seen in my life) to keep other guys from trying to flirt your gf. She's with ya most likely because she loves you but that doesnt mean the other guys can't give it a try. If she decides she loves someone else more and breaks up with you then I guess the relationship wasn't worth that much therefore the only thing you're asking others to respect is yourself and your own comfort and peace of mind and not your "relationship". All you can do is do your best to make sure she never feels that she might be better with someone else that way she will most likely never pay attention to them.[/quote']

 

I might have been a bit extreme on my post but not as much as you are on yours that's for sure. As for the bolded part she's mine you idiot it's not a cattle auction. She comes home to my bed everynight that's what gives me the right to tell deuchebags to **** off. Btw im far from feeling helpless or insecure with my relationship otherwise id be the one following her around like a puppy on a saturday night. She wouldnt ever do anything with another guy i was just generalizing speaking about anyone in that situation, just used us as an example. im not reaching out for help just thought about it so why not bring it up it is a discussion forum. yes fyi just for your own personal nosiness i do plan on proposing within 6 months when the time is right.

 

If your partner isn't happy and you can't tell you're an idiot. Just saying it's a ***** move to go after someone if they say they have a boyfriend/husband there is no honor in it. Say you do end up stealing someones girl she's probably gonna cheat on you in the long run as well. Be a ****ing man not a weasel

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This is why I date fat chicks. No one hits on them' date=' so I have nothing to worry about. Hott sexy tight chicks are over rated. give me a fat d1ke like chick and i'll be more than happy to throw my hotdog down her hallway.[/quote']

 

Once again bro you rule! Best post of the day!

 

I agree with what the other guys are saying, if you can't trust her than there is a bigger problem than some punk trying to hit on her. Your relationship can't survive if you don't have trust bro, I've been married a long time take my word for it.

 

Anyhow one time many years ago my wife and I were at the movies and some dude grabbed her ****. I chased the dude down and slammed his **** face first into a palm tree then elbowed him twice in the back of the head. He was bleeding and crying his apologies; what a pathetic loser!

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I might have been a bit extreme on my post but not as much as you are on yours that's for sure. As for the bolded part she's mine you idiot it's not a cattle auction. She comes home to my bed everynight that's what gives me the right to tell deuchebags to **** off. Btw im far from feeling helpless or insecure with my relationship otherwise id be the one following her around like a puppy on a saturday night. She wouldnt ever do anything with another guy i was just generalizing speaking about anyone in that situation' date=' just used us as an example. im not reaching out for help just thought about it so why not bring it up it is a discussion forum. yes fyi just for your own personal nosiness i do plan on proposing within 6 months when the time is right.

 

If your partner isn't happy and you can't tell you're an idiot. Just saying it's a ***** move to go after someone if they say they have a boyfriend/husband there is no honor in it. [b']Say you do end up stealing someones girl she's probably gonna cheat on you in the long run as well. Be a ****ing man not a weasel[/b]

 

lol caveman.

 

not everyone is looking for a wife all the time and maybe you have something shes lacking with he SO like adventure, fun, a new experience. women can do as they please just as men can. not everyone feels as uptight about sex or flirting that they have to invent some silly rules to claim and protect women like property.

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okay i can kind of see where you guys are coming from. yeah go out with plumpers cause you don't gotta worry about nobody stealing your women. well i guess thats all fine and dandy, for the sake of the whales anyways

 

but if you guys want some real advice on picking up women. go hang around out front your local abortion clinic. sure she won't be your dream girl or nothing, but at least you know she puts out.

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okay i can kind of see where you guys are coming from. yeah go out with plumpers cause you don't gotta worry about nobody stealing your women. well i guess thats all fine and dandy' date=' for the sake of the whales anyways

 

but if you guys want some real advice on picking up women. go hang around out front your local abortion clinic. sure she won't be your dream girl or nothing, but at least you know she puts out.[/quote']

 

Not only does she put out, but you don't have to wear a condom AND you know she'll get the kid sucked out.

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Everyone says im too uptight about it but wait till your woman gets eye****ed see if you are so light hearted about it. either most of you that posted are here are single or im ****ed and id put money on the first option

 

If someone was eye-porking my wife I would just slap her breast around a bit. you know, give him something to thinking about while he uses his tears as lube to choke his chicken.

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Everyone says im too uptight about it but wait till your woman gets eye****ed see if you are so light hearted about it. either most of you that posted are here are single or im ****ed and id put money on the first option

 

who doesn't eye **** every beautiful woman they see? i know if i get a good view of a woman i know within a split second if i'd **** her. isn't that standard?

 

what are you going to do about it - lets say im checking out your GF, getting a great look at her goods. Now what are you going to do? Tell me I can't look? Maybe your girl should be sporting a burqa? Lets say I speak to her in a suggestive manner. Are you going to attack me? WOW stupid move, make a scene over nothing, risk your safety and hers because you are a hot head. I could have a knife a gun or just be kickass. Lets say it's at a bar or maybe a theater. Security is going to come by and definitely kick you out, and if i don't fihgt back, ill get to stay. so now you look like a spaz, you got kicked out but is your girl staying or going with you? keep in mind you just ruined the night all cause someone looked at your girl.

 

the solution - CHILL THE **** OUT. If you try to control your girlfriend or those that hit on her you are going to have issues. what girl wants to be with a controlling man who can't stand the thought of her unescorted? can she have male friends? if mentions another guy do you get jealous? everyone has an emotional reaction but you need to learn that is your primitive, reptillian brain and in today's world you need to frontal cortex. use your words effectively and you can avert trouble, or expose it.

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okay i can kind of see where you guys are coming from. yeah go out with plumpers cause you don't gotta worry about nobody stealing your women. well i guess thats all fine and dandy' date=' for the sake of the whales anyways

 

but if you guys want some real advice on picking up women. go hang around out front your local abortion clinic. sure she won't be your dream girl or nothing, but at least you know she puts out.[/quote']

 

yeah but you might want to get a look at her STD test results. a woman coming out of the clinic isn't the most cautious is she?

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I don't know about everyone else but... my girlfriend doesn't get flirted with or anything infront of me because im there and that scares guys away but she wants to go out with her lady friends everynow and then which is understandable' date=' but still i hate even knowing that a guy will try to hit on her and he'll go home and have a story to tell his buddies that lightened his day. I hate even knowing they got some kind of satisfaction from it. For example the girls went out the other night and some guy was following her around like a puppy supposedly even after hearing she has a boyfriend.

 

This is to all the single guys out there. Hitting on girls is fine but have some respect for other peoples relationships if they are in one. Even before i was with my gf i have NEVER come onto a taken woman. Theres nothing worse than a sneaky little weasel trolling around the bar with a **** eating grin on his face who hits on other peoples women when they arent around just to get his jollies off[/quote']

 

 

True love has no insecurities. Trust is very important in a relationship and it will happen at one time or another.Another thing you must understand is that when a girl is not with her boyfriend it is common that other guys attempt to flirt with them. One more thing you must understand is that it is just your girlfriend and you all are not married, so you do not own her and she does not own you. I do not think anyone would like a boyfriend that cannot allow them to talk to other people in fear that something may transpire because of it.

 

 

Be confident and if she has given you no reason to doubt her faithfulness then it should not be a big deal.

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If you have an attractive girlfriend, and you are insecure about keeping her, don't take her to a bar. guess what? there are a lot of single dogs there at a bar. this is what a bar is for, single guys hitting on hot girls. i never get emotional when somebody hits on my girl at a bar, ONLY when he is informed to back off and he doesn't. My advise is either learn to deal with your insecurities in a relationship, or take her to "safer" places like a church or the city park.

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Relax a bit man' date=' the one thing that turns women off is insecurity (or hitting on their best friend/sister). At the end of the day its her choice how far she allows it to go. If she allows the flirting to progress, sorry man but that ain't your chick![/quote']

You said it all!

 

But if it's an open relationship, then it is different ...

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I might have been a bit extreme on my post but not as much as you are on yours that's for sure. As for the bolded part she's mine you idiot it's not a cattle auction. She comes home to my bed everynight that's what gives me the right to tell deuchebags to **** off. Btw im far from feeling helpless or insecure with my relationship otherwise id be the one following her around like a puppy on a saturday night. She wouldnt ever do anything with another guy i was just generalizing speaking about anyone in that situation' date=' just used us as an example. im not reaching out for help just thought about it so why not bring it up it is a discussion forum. yes fyi just for your own personal nosiness i do plan on proposing within 6 months when the time is right.

 

If your partner isn't happy and you can't tell you're an idiot. Just saying it's a ***** move to go after someone if they say they have a boyfriend/husband there is no honor in it. Say you do end up stealing someones girl she's probably gonna cheat on you in the long run as well. Be a ****ing man not a weasel[/quote']

 

You are way to insecure about your relationship? Have you been cheated on several times by others? Hard to trust people? It could explain alot. I know I have a hard time trusting people..but seriously man if you are that insecure about the relationship then you mine as well leave her now because it won't work out.

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I don't know about everyone else but... my girlfriend doesn't get flirted with or anything infront of me because im there and that scares guys away but she wants to go out with her lady friends everynow and then which is understandable' date=' but still i hate even knowing that a guy will try to hit on her and he'll go home and have a story to tell his buddies that lightened his day. I hate even knowing they got some kind of satisfaction from it. For example the girls went out the other night and some guy was following her around like a puppy supposedly even after hearing she has a boyfriend.

 

This is to all the single guys out there. Hitting on girls is fine but have some respect for other peoples relationships if they are in one. Even before i was with my gf i have NEVER come onto a taken woman. Theres nothing worse than a sneaky little weasel trolling around the bar with a **** eating grin on his face who hits on other peoples women when they arent around just to get his jollies off[/quote']

 

I flirt with Married women all the time, they're a lot easier to talk too than single women.

 

Plus I suffer from that "Other Guy" syndrome!

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If someone hit on my girlfriend and she didn't want it I would intervien. If she wanted it then I would find a new girlfriend...

 

 

 

 

Very wise. Let's look at the flip side for me. If he didn't put the brakes on this woman early, then let him have her. He'd see my butt walking out the door.

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I stand by what I first said. Now that being said...

 

It is frustrating when a guy hits on my girl. I guess that's mainly our fault. When we walk into a bar/club/party, we have to somehow let everyone know she's with you. Either give her a kiss in front of everyone or something and do it every now and then. Let all the guys know she's taken.

 

If guys still hit on her, then they are just being jerks. They aren't just disrespecting your relationship, but they are disrespecting you as well. They flirt with your woman as if you're not even there. That is just very disrespectful and is one of the few things that really pisses me off.

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I stand by what I first said. Now that being said...

 

It is frustrating when a guy hits on my girl. I guess that's mainly our fault. When we walk into a bar/club/party' date=' we have to somehow let everyone know she's with you. Either give her a kiss in front of everyone or something and do it every now and then. Let all the guys know she's taken.

 

If guys still hit on her, then they are just being jerks. They aren't just disrespecting your relationship, but they are disrespecting you as well. They flirt with your woman as if you're not even there. That is just very disrespectful and is one of the few things that really pisses me off.

 

Yeah same. I'm not agressive person but if someone does that he's going to get his face kicked in...

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hey who wants to be with a girl noone likes the look of????

 

unfortunately my wife is thin blonde beautiful and 25 while im 40 so the guys just think im her dad.........:(.

 

Nice... One of those F1 bosses is like 70 and has sum supermodel that is 20 sumtin. Looks like he's her grandpa and I almost puked when she kissed him.

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Think of the alternative - guys don't look at your girl AT ALL? You wouldn't want that either really.

 

The way I understand it, guys are kinda hard wired to look. If they are looking at your girl, just take it as a compliment and move on.

 

Your girl is gonna do whatever she wants whether you are there beside her patrolling her or she is out alone for girls nite. There isn't a damn thing you can do about it. You either trust HER or you don't. You will never stop other guys from checking her out.

 

Careful though, overdo the jealousy thing and she's gone.

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I stand by what I first said. Now that being said...

 

It is frustrating when a guy hits on my girl. I guess that's mainly our fault. When we walk into a bar/club/party' date=' we have to somehow let everyone know she's with you. Either give her a kiss in front of everyone or something and do it every now and then. Let all the guys know she's taken.

 

If guys still hit on her, then they are just being jerks. They aren't just disrespecting your relationship, but they are disrespecting you as well. They flirt with your woman as if you're not even there. That is just very disrespectful and is one of the few things that really pisses me off.

 

Yeah, so true. Those f***ers!

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caveman much?

 

let your girl decide if she wants to flirt or be hit on. shes not your property. i'll hit on girls regardless of their status. if they are receptive then obviously the their relationship isn't all that good or serious. if you were really secure about your relationship you'd lighten up. if your girl disrespects your or cheats then obviously you feel differently about each other.

 

As someone that's been in a LTR I totally agree! No jealousy=great relationship.

When we go out, we usually go our seperate ways mingle with other friends. If she gets some free drinks from guys, more power to her, plus it's an ego boost for both of us knowing that guys are interested.

 

What fun is it to go out just to be with the same person you're with at home the whole time. Plus nothing is more annoying than watching a couple that's only been together 6 months holding hands and cuddling the whole time, we get it you're in a new relationship and totally "in love"... stay home if you're going to be buzzkills.

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